Pearl teaches me how to teach myself which is a skill I benefit from every waking hour. If you are 100% committed to yourself and to Pearl’s coaching, you will see immediate success that will continue to build on itself. Pearl has changed the quality of my life for the better and I am forever grateful to her. Her work is seriously amazing, practical and powerful” Sarah A. - Far Rockaway.
Anna F. Brooklyn
Ace K. Brooklyn
From the very first session, Pearl made me feel stronger and more in control of my situation. She focused on moving me into a position of mental strength. She has a great instinct to help solve issues step by step. Pearl is probably the best listener I have ever encountered in my life. She helps me understand myself and to figure out how to heal myself and to then move to a better place. Through Pearl’s work, I have become more clear, capable and empowered.
I tell everyone I know to call her!! I don’t know how I would have gotten through this incredibly trying time without her.
Vivi. P - Long Island
I knew my first visit was not going to be my last and for the first time felt like the revolving door might stop. Shes loving, caring and very involved. She calls to make sure I am OK and puts time into all my needs and challenges. She brings light and clarity to so many issues and has me handle my new relationship with a completely new perspective. Above all my approach to many different issues are now handled differently and I owe it all to her. I highly recommend Pearl flax to anyone of any age seeking guidance, answers , peace and clarity. I can honesty say I am blessed having her work with me and beside me every step of the way! Debbie Z - New York
Why Pearl is outstanding
Up against the deadline determined by my psychological advisors, I did a review of the information I had gathered. What struck me
was an online presentation of a divorce mediator who called himself a “divorce coach”. He made an amazing claim that rang true for
me. This was that the divorce process was no more legally complex than that of buying a house. Yet, couples pour money and time
into the legal routines of divorce as if it was a much more complicated matter.
He said what people really need are coaches, familiar with divorce, to walk through it with them. As a result, they could perform
themselves, the relatively limited number of steps that are required for their personal circumstances. These parties need a coach to
talk through choices and outcomes, and might require a fair amount of support to find what was really right for them (doing it at less
than a lawyer’s prohibitively high rate). I have learned that divorce mediators, or mediators in general, are about an ethic of coming up
with your own solutions and maintaining the control of your own life.
Need for divorce coach
The first time I spoke to Pearl was for the 30 minute free introduction to her coaching therapy. At the time I was seeing an LCSW. I
had a psychiatrist to prescribe medication for me. I needed advice about how to approach starting a divorce with a spouse who had
always “played” me. For three months I gathered lots of information, talked to a few lawyers on the phone, and had two lengthy
meetings with another lawyer.
The lawyers believed they knew just what was right for me. They all spoke of their doing things that I could do for myself, plus extra
measures. Talking to them brought insight, but my self-concept could not allow that they take over, and do so with what I saw as
indefensible levels of expense. These lawyers insisted on the “one formula fits all” litigation process, with all its shock and insult to both
parties, which inevitably drives costs up far higher.
My psychiatrist thought the divorce process might not be that painful for me, and shamed me for not doing it after looking into it for
three months already. I had to explain that I did not intend to be “thrown against the wall” again. My LCSW therapist had pushed
me hard into finding a lawyer, even though I had said several times that I wanted to learn about the law and process as much as I
could first, that maybe I just wanted to consult with a lawyer. I also said I was constantly coming upon information that changed
everything. I told her I felt far less “armed” than I could be, or was comfortable with. She seemed unaffected by this.
I went looking for a divorce coach online, and chose Pearl because she described herself as helping people through divorces, citing
difficulties in her life and in her divorce that were similar to mine. The coaches from the organization she was a part of seemed to
have lived through the experiences they were now helping with. That’s what I needed, someone who could have true empathy and
understanding for my quandaries!
In the 30 minute trial, that I thought was just supposed to give me a look at her process, Pearl opened things up for me like I did not
think was possible. She listened very hard to me and said it was better for people to make their own calls on their lives. I did not
realize till after I was off the phone that she was telling me that my own assessments, timetables and decisions were the best way for
me to operate.
At that moment I realized how much I was fighting off the psychological and legal advisors I was speaking to, and how much I was not
following my internal analysis and direction. I had some strong ideas that I wanted to follow very badly. I then picked up the next part
of my project of my divorce, instead of being in deadlock. For anyone, I believe one’s own analysis and decisions make up the golden
road to a good life – a healed life – which is what divorce seeks to create.
This is how Pearl has been a much better helper to me than my LCSW, my psychiatrist, my psychologists before them, as well as the
lawyers I spoke to:
1. She helped me sort out my own thoughts, in sharp contrast to others on my team before, who were mostly giving me their solutions
to my problems.
2. She looked more closely at my behavior and personality than the others did – for feedback that I needed.
3. She asked many more questions about my recent past, and my childhood – for a beginning look at trauma.
4. She vigorously pinned down the nature of the interactions between myself and my husband – the basis of the changes I was going to act on. Hard to believe that she did all of this even in the trial session I had with her – but it is true.
I have worked with Pearl for 12 sessions so far, all productive for me. I was stuck on how to proceed with divorce for a while because I
could not decide what strategy would bring the best financial outcome. Then Pearl gave me an amazing handout on filtering out your
most closely held values from a long list. It was hard for me to decide on a financial strategy because I was prioritizing finances in my
plans for divorce, while it was not among the top values I prioritized internally.
Pearl gave me a very simple breathing and meditation regimen that raises my mood and ability to see things clearly every time I use it.
I have not had ongoing success with breathing or meditation before this. She also provided a consistently effective exercise to deal with
my childhood trauma, giving me a way to get past what has been stubborn anger and avoidance. Pearl is not put-off from the different
type of person I can be, or the non-standard things I sometimes want to do. She has helped me, and continues to help me, find myself
and create the changes I am looking for. She is very warm and welcoming. Pearl is an analyst and a source of support, not a purveyor
of the prevailing advice. She is a coach, and extremely good at it. Brenda T. - New York