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Codependency is a common response to having gone through childhood or relational trauma. I help clients understand the roots of their codependent behaviors and identify actional steps towards ending the constant cycle of people pleasing, perfectionism and prioritizing others needs before theirs. Clients develop the skills to finally be able to set healthy boundaries without guilt and unapologetically stepping into their own embodied power.
Emotional shut down is a common result of childhood and attachment trauma. Many people are disconnected from themselves because there was no one there to help them navigate their inner world. Their only option is survival mode which often gets in the way of connecting safely with others and others feeling safely connected to them. Clients develop a rich inner self-awareness when they discover their bodies inner knowing and emotions. It opens the door for true inner connection and lasting healthy relationships.
Childhood and Relational Trauma normally evoke feelings of abandonment, neglect, or rejection by someone we love, including our parents or romantic partners. Together we will work through your relational wounds in a loving supportive safe space to create expansion and a safe home within yourself. Clients develop the skills to respond from a place of safety and integrity, rather than reacting to their triggers. From this new integrated space clients develop skills for safer and healthier meaningful connections.
Humans are hard wired for love and connection. However, life here on earth can cause many attachment ruptures that prevent us from experiencing safe and healthy connections. Hence, “marriage is the unfinished business of childhood”. Together we will work on navigating trauma triggers, restore trust, foster a connection, and improve communication skills. Clients will walk away with a clear understanding of themselves and their partners creating a deep loving connection.
Read more about Integrative Therapeutic Modalities
Transforming the Experience Based Brain is an innovative biophysiological approach to healing, developed by Stephen J. Terrell, PsyD, SEP a world leading authority on developmental trauma.
The term developmental Trauma stems from the work of Bessel van der Kolk, author of The Body Keeps the Score. It describes the many impacts of childhood trauma that can be measured in adult populations, as demonstrated by the Adverse Childhood Experiences study.
TEB is a Somatic (or embodied) therapy to support healing at a biophysiological level, from the impact of adverse childhood experiences. Adverse childhood experiences can change the wiring of our bodies and brain meaning we get locked into ‘survival physiology’.
In survival physiology it can be difficult to feel safe, see opportunities, move towards connection or make healthy choices. We may feel powerless around persistent behaviors, beliefs, actions or states which negatively impact our life. These may indicate defensive accommodations: ways we have adapted to manage an underlying survival physiology.
Defensive accommodations often underpin many of the things that regularly drive people to seek out therapy such as:
- Anxiety and stress
- Mood instability
- Sleep issues
- Confidence and self esteem
- Finding or maintaining relationships
- Addictive behaviors
- Health and wellbeing
- A desire to feel happier and more fulfilled
- A desire for more from life
Somatic touch is an attachment focused neurophysiological method of hands on and intentional healing. The Somatic Experiencing® therapist who has had special hands-on training in touch uses touch to more directly intervene with the client’s nervous system. The SE therapist uses her own regulated nervous system to help bring regulation back to the client.
Through this modality, many of my clients have reported feeling more present, alive, and fearless. TEB involves touch skills which supports the client and helps them regain their equilibrium. In a typical session: we spend time checking in and talking about your themes. When appropriate and with your permission, we move into a treatment phase typically 20 – 40 mins long. Through this innovative approach people become aware of the early childhood trauma they have been carrying around for years. As a practitioner, I lift the burden off my clients and provide a loving and supportive space for them to process, integrate and heal.
Healing Touch is remarkably helpful to regulate the nervous system and bring safety back to the body.
Self-Regulation Training (SRT), known to some as the Melrose Healing Method, is a quiet, naturalistic way of healing the effects of stress and trauma. This method has been greatly influenced by the work of Somatic Experiencing (SE); the short-term trauma-healing approach developed by Dr. Peter Levine (traumahealing.org.).
SRT, like SE, recognizes the limits of talk therapy and other treatment modalities that use catharsis and other activating techniques in order to “discharge” stressful or traumatic material. Such stimulating techniques may offer temporary relief, but their benefits are rarely long-term. These more activating approaches, in their lack of a complete understanding of the impact of stress and trauma on the brain, can overwhelm the nervous system and re-traumatize rather than heal.
Like SE, SRT helps “renegotiate” patterns of arousal and anxiety by carefully supporting the body’s natural ability to release over-activation. By combining and interweaving elements of stress and trauma with strengths and resources, a new, complete and more empowering experience is created, thus enabling new, more powerful neural pathways in the brain. This is when clients begin to notice a new and greater repertoire of emotional and behavioral choices. They move from being stuck in rage, helplessness, and anxiety to a fluid experience of empowerment, peace, and resiliency thereby strengthening and building resistance to future stress and trauma.
Adding SRT to my practice has shown life changing results for myself and my clients. It is my belief that talk therapy alone, without the integration of the nervous system, will for most people never be enough. It is truly the missing link to a complete mind, body and soul healing approach.
A body first approach to healing
“Trauma is about loss of connection, first to the body and the self, and second to others and the environment”. Peter Levine
Trauma is experienced, processed, stored, and relived through our body – or somatically. In response, we must show not tell, our protective parts that we are safe, through Somatic healing approaches. When someone is stuck in a survival response (ie. Fight flight or freeze/shutdown), they will constantly experience life through fear and danger even when the danger isn’t present. At other times they might shut down and lose capacity to live in the present moment, or constantly be on the run busying.
SRT – Breathwork and TEB are all somatic approaches that aim to help a person access the body memory of the event, so that they can safely and slowly complete the incomplete experience and renegotiate the experience in order to come back to present moment safety.
Breath is life, it’s the first thing we anxiously wait to hear from a baby at birth and the last thing we do when we transition. Yet while we have something that is so powerful and free most people don’t realize that is also one of the most transformative healing modalities. Breathwork is an umbrella term that relates to the practice of consciously manipulating the depth and rate of breathing to achieve a specific outcome. Your breath is one of the most powerful tools you have at your disposal to completely transform your mental, physical, and spiritual well-being. I am trained in a variety of different breathwork modalities. Together we create the best protocols to get you to where you want to be.
Breathwork is a hands-on healing modality. The Breathwork practitioner who has had special hands-on training in body mapping pressure points uses touch and breath to help the client open constricted patterns.
Most people restrict their breathing to avoid experiencing unpleasant feelings. By holding our breath, we deactivate feelings. Keeping them repressed (held in the subconscious) requires a tremendous ongoing amount of energy and creates chronic tension in our bodies. These repressed feelings also unconsciously affect our behavior, often in limiting, self-sabotaging ways.
Breathwork integrates the wounded aspects of self into one functioning whole. It produces an entrainment effect in the electromagnetic field which allows dense, lower vibrational patterns (such as repressed emotions) to be transformed into a higher vibrational energy. Through this process, trauma permanently shifts from our being—without the need for conscious processing of each accumulated hurt. Old patterns are restructured through the breath, the true inner nature reveals itself, and we move easily beyond our previous limitations to lead a more joyful and healthy life.
What Does Breath Do?
Opens and clears restricted breathing patterns producing…
- More Energy
- Increased Detoxification
- Better Health
- Improved Respiratory Capacity
- Stronger Immune System
- Creates More Balance
Integrates elements of the subconscious mind which allows us to…
- Resolve Stress
- Clear Repressed Emotions
- Remove Old Stigmas which Creates Peace, Creativity and Clarity of Mind
Eases accessibility to higher dimensions and levels of consciousness that give us…
- Stronger Connection to Higher Self
- Fuller Expression of Spiritual Gifts
- Deeper Meditation
- Opening to the Mystical
- Awareness of Unity Consciousness
Inner Child healing …
Inner-child work, sometimes known as inner-child therapy or inner-child healing, is a therapeutic process used in many forms of therapy to help clients address and recover from harmful, maladaptive experiences that occurred in early childhood. It focuses on assisting individuals in accessing and re-experiencing any repressed memories and emotions to cultivate awareness, acceptance, and healing. One of the goals of inner-child work is to allow “childlike patterns to gradually evolve into adult life,” or, in other words, to allow the “healthy integration of the inner child as part of a whole adult.”
The inner child may have a wide range of needs, experiences, personality traits, and ages. Even as a person ages, their inner child remains a component of their psyche.
This is an approach I integrate as needed and only when my clients show enough agency to process old painful wounds. We take a slow and safe approach assuring that healing will result. How the session looks always varies and depends at what stage of the healing we are at. What it could include or look like:
- Meeting and Dialoguing with Your Inner Child.
- Renegotiating Old Painful Experiences.
- Journaling from Your Inner Child’s Voice and/or Non Dominant Hand Journaling and Drawing.
- Meditating and Connecting to Your Inner Child
- Re-Parenting Tools
- Play – Opening Up the Possibilities to Reclaim Your Inner Child’s Playfulness and Freedom.
Benefits of Inner child work:
- Improved Quality of Life
- Reduced Symptoms of Depression
- Reduced Anxiety
- Improved Responses that are Proportionate to the Situation
- Improved Functioning
- Integration of Ego States
- Better Interpersonal Relationships
- Improved Vitality
- Returned Sense of Child-Like Wonder
- Improved Emotional Regulation and Maturity
- Greater Authenticity and Whole-Person Behavior
“We are only as needy as our unmet needs”. John Bowlby