Pearl Flax

Hi there! I am Pearl, a Trauma informed couples’ counselor and Healer.

My Mission is to help couples create a harmonious connected loving relationship and home.  In our work together you will discover what parts of your childhood and unhealed wounds are getting in the way of your happiness and connection!

Through the variety of modalities I incorporate we will meet all those parts with love, compassion and understanding to build a healthy and meaningful foundation.

After having traveled through my own challenging journey from a very young age I knew there are only two options. Suffer and staying stuck, or reluctantly embarking on a healing journey that will set me free.  I chose the latter. It was hard…really hard, but here I am.  This is what  lead me to dedicate my life to helping couples heal themselves, their wounded inner child, and their marriages. My passion and purpose is to help others find true happiness and harmony in their lives and create lasting loving connections and cultivate a healthier future for themselves and the lives they touch and influence.  

My approach to healing therapy

My practice is built on the core foundations of love and safety. I create a safe space for you to freely express your past pain, childhood trauma, or challenging circumstances. I strongly believe that my clients are the experts of their own lives, and they are the ones that know what they went through and who they are yearning to become. Through the process of healing, my clients learn to awaken their authentic self by acknowledging the old patterns that are no longer serving them.  I teach my clients how to stop running from their pain and to start healing it. The greatest journey you will ever embark on is healing your soul and creating the life you deserve and desire to live.

I am trained in a variety of modalities and somehow find myself always wanting to expand and bring more to my clients. To ensure that my training and clinical skills are up-to-date, I undertake several professional development activities and clinical trainings every year. This has included becoming a Somatic Trauma practitioner, Certified breathwork facilitator, TEB  Practitioner to name a few. I also seek regular clinical consultations from seasoned psychotherapists and somatic training supervisors regarding various client cases to expand my technique and to ensure I am providing my clients with the most ethical and advanced care. 

The Core Values Supporting My Mission

SAFETY: Safety is the bedrock for which this work is done. I believe slower, smaller steps are always better. My aim is to stretch you, without stressing you. I go at your pace, always.

CHOICE: Agency and choice is foundational to any trauma informed work. You are the expert in your own life, it’s my job to support you in those choices.

CONTEXT: Much of my work will be supported by psychoeducation, giving you greater context into what’s happening inside of you, because of what happened to you.

COMPASSION: When we have the context that our emotions, thoughts & behaviors make complete sense, based on our need to self-protect, we’re able to replace our old shame-narratives, with compassion.

CONNECTION: Trauma often disconnects us from ourselves, others & the world. My job is to hold a regulated space for you to safely explore connection again.

SOLUTION-FOCUSED: I help you build up your strengths, new healthy beliefs, and positive coping strategies rather than just extinguishing “negative” behaviors and beliefs.

PRESENT & PAST ORIENTED: Our work will be a combination of safely unpacking the past while anchoring you in the present – to help you process and heal while integrating new ways of thinking and tools that will create equilibrium, expansion and resilience.

LOVE & ADMIRATION:  Every client I work with is a light I cherish and admire and am forever grateful for. My heart has so much love and admiration for every person that opens themselves up to do the most sacred and difficult work in our lives. Healing!

  • Specifically I am trained in ...

    Gottman Couples Therapy

    Imago Couples Therapy

    Certified CDC Divorce Coach & Mediator

    Certified TEB Practitioner

    Certified SRT Practitioner

    Certified Life Coach

    Certified Breathwork Facilitator

    Inner Child Healing 

    Gemstone Healing

    Energy Healing