When you’re feeling unsure of yourself or your capabilities, your options in life can seem few and far between. Not only do you have trouble recognizing opportunities to improve your life, you also resist taking action and end up feeling stuck and defeated much of the time.
Empowering yourself is a simple matter of switching your perspective and choosing to believe that you are not powerless or stuck. For example, you may currently have a perception that you’re not talented or resourceful. Such a belief will keep you locked in a cycle of fear, futility and inactivity because you won’t see the point of trying to improve your life, or you’ll be too afraid to try.
Regardless of the perceptions and beliefs that may be holding you back, there are specific things you can do to transform them and embrace more empowering beliefs.


Below you’ll find three easy ways to help you switch your perspective from dis-empowerment to empowerment:

  • 1) Challenge your limiting beliefs and fears. The most difficult thing about perceptions is that they appear to be undeniable truth in your own mind. For example, you may have held a belief for years that you’re not good at a particular task or activity, but when you begin to explore that “truth” later, you realize that you never gave it your full effort or didn’t allow time to fully master it. Once you do, you realize that you’re capable of much more than you ever suspected!
    In order to fully empower yourself, get into the habit of questioning and challenging any limiting beliefs, fears and doubts that come up about you or your capabilities. Are they really true? Why do you think so? Have you ever tried to prove them wrong? By asking questions like this and being willing to expand your perceptions, you quickly realize that you are the only one holding yourself back!
  • 2) Affirm your strengths and capabilities frequently. Along with dis-empowerment usually comes a belief that you’re weak and powerless, which is simply another perception! Begin changing this perception by affirming frequently that you are strong, powerful, talented, beautiful and capable. Build yourself up with encouraging words and thoughts and you’ll begin to believe in yourself more and more each day. Over time, this belief continues to grow and you’ll be able to do things you never would have believed you were capable of before.
  • 3) Take action. Feeling dis-empowered usually causes you to hold back on taking action, either because you’re frightened, or because you believe it’s futile to try to change anything. Your first impulse might be to wait until you’re feeling stronger before you take action, but did you know that taking action can make you feel stronger? That’s right, taking action can empower you!
    Be willing to take action in order to build up your confidence, even if you have to take very small steps. Come up with one small action you can take, push your fear aside and then go for it!
    Then keep that positive cycle going by taking small action steps and moving forward bit by bit, and eventually you’ll realize how incredibly strong and powerful you truly are!


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Self-improvement and self-change is not something that comes naturally to many people.
In fact, most people are “change averse.” They have a fear of changing their lives, and especially a fear of changing their own self.
So instead of changing or improving the state of their lives, most people would rather just maintain the status quo and play it safe.

There are many different reasons people avoid self-improvement. Here are some of the main reasons:
1. You have too much pride
One of the most common things that hinders our self-improvement is that we have too much pride and arrogance.
This is because the word “self-improvement” often implies that there are areas of our life where we aren’t fully satisfied or happy with (or, at the very least, where we think we can do better).
So, to some extent, “self improvement” means that we have to admit that we can do better than our current situation – even if this temporarily hurts our egos.
You can overcome this by recognizing that no one is perfect, and everyone can improve themselves in different ways.
Understand that you are an individual who is always growing and changing, and this is nothing to be ashamed of. It’s only the person that doesn’t pursue self-improvement – who ignores that they can do better in certain areas of their life – who really has the broken ego in the end.

2. You think there will always be tomorrow
Another problem we face when pursuing self-improvement is that we have a false belief that there will always be tomorrow.
So instead of working to make changes today, we procrastinate and hold off on our goals and dreams. Unfortunately, if we keep following this pattern, then one day we may wake up and realize our whole life has passed us by, but we never got a chance to do the things that we really wanted to do.
“Why didn’t I learn to treat everything like it was the last time? My greatest regret was how much I believed in the future.” (Jonathan Safran Foer)
The lesson here is not to wait, but to act now. Don’t let time just pass you by.
Life is remarkably short and tomorrow is never a guarantee. Take advantage of every day you have, and don’t wait until you’re on your deathbed to realize the life you’ve always wanted to live.

3. You believe you need to change everything overnight
One of the main things I warn people about in The Science of Self Improvement is the “myth of overnight success.”
We either expect big and immediate changes in our life – or nothing at all. So when things don’t magically get better in a short period of time, we quickly lose our commitment and dedication toward making gradual positive changes.
This is a common trap to fall into, because self-improvement is often small and incremental. We need to work at it for long periods of time before we can look back and see how big of a difference we’ve made.
Instead of searching for magical solutions to your life, focus on small and gradual change. Try to make a bit of progress each and every-day, but realize it’s a long-term commitment.

4. You say you are “too busy”
Last but not least, one of the most common excuses we have is that we are “too busy.”
You want to go to the gym and exercise again, but you just can’t find the time, because you’re too busy running around at work, at home, at school, or doing other errands.
Sure, life can be busy (there’s no denying that), but when you find yourself “too busy” that’s really a sign that you need to reevaluate your priorities.
“Those who think they have no time for healthy eating will sooner or later have to find time for illness.” (Edward Stanley)
Ask yourself, “What’s really important to me?” Then make time for the things you value the most.

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